We need a new mattress, but hubby likes the current one and doesn’t see the reason for a change.
For me, the thing sinks a trifle in the midsection.
The one we sleep on has aged, but it doesn’t matter. We soon indent each new mattress.
We aren't large people, but we enjoy sleeping side-by-side....in the interior of the bed. We move toward each other until we meet.
One recent night, as sleep eluded me, I thought about our midpoint location and decided the middle is good stuff.
Sleeping in the center and touching your loved one during the night brings a treasured closeness. You can't stay mad at a spouse if you continue to touch him/her in the bed, and contact with your partner brings security to both of you.
If the two of you don’t sleep on your side in a spooning position, hold hands as you sleep on your backs. Place your toes together. Touch in some way and stay joined.
Uh-oh! Angry, you say? You don't want contact?
Here's my thought. Don't cling to the outer edges of a bed—that won’t solve an anger issue, but meet at the midpoint. Linking bodies together can melt a cold heart and disolve a lot of wrath. It’s a good way to warm cold feet, too.
Oh sure! I know some nights are too sweltering to be close, and those darn hot flashes surprise us at odd times. Scootch away until a normal temperature returns, and then move back to your traditional spot.
Relationships are built on people reaching a common ground. Compromise. Each person gives in a little to the other. The bedroom is a good place to start.
Not long ago, someone asked me the secret to a long-term marriage. I replied, “Meet in the middle.” The lady raised her brows as she thought about my response. I went on to explain how I believe sharing the middle of the bed keeps one feeling cherished.
And then I said, there will be disagreements over money, kids, jobs, in-laws, etc, but solutions can be found.
In bed, and in life, try the middle.